Thu, Jun 17, 2021

Holistic therapies in grieving processes


  • 05/15/2021 - by Fco. Javier Plaza Mena

The following opinion piece is not an invitation for holistic therapies to replace conventional grief therapy. Rather, it is an invitation to be open-minded to a new reality that is increasingly in demand and with countless success stories. It is an invitation to open our hearts to new possibilities and methodologies, since both therapies can go hand in hand (in cases where it is considered necessary) in the not too distant future,with the aim of taking help to the next level in this type of process and giving more enlightenment toward death.

This text is based on my study, work and experimentation with holistic therapies and extrasensory capacities. It is my opinion and the reality that I live in this moment. A reality that expands at every step. I transmit it with total and absolute respect towards other currents of opinion and beliefs. I do not pretend to convince anyone or to be a possessor of the truth. It is just a sharing from the heart.

Grief therapy is a psychological therapeutic process that helps restore mental and emotional balance after the death of a loved one. In short, it is a psychological help to face, in the best possible way, the goodbye to a person who has been important to us.

Generally, the person is helped to better manage their emotions, thoughts and memories. In a way, it is a mental training to "see" the situation in a more friendly and positive way, restoring the emotional balance of people.

It is true that we can also go through very similar phases and experience a grief, with the loss of companion animals, material possessions and breakup of a couple, for example. However, in this article we will focus on the departure of our loved ones.

What are holistic therapies?

In holistic therapy, one starts from an important base: The human is considered as a unit between body, mind and spirit.  In some cases, as in Ayurveda or traditional Chinese medicine, the patient is treated in a more comprehensive way, looking for the cause of the symptom or disease. That is, it is considered, for example, that the manifestation of a disease is the consequence of a physical, mental, emotional and / or energetic imbalance. Generally, the holistic approach of these 2 therapies includes a broader perspective, looking for the root of the problem or imbalance and acting on it. In this way, the main objective is to stimulate the natural healing power of our body.

There are many holistic therapies, some of them so well known and present today, in a large part of the world population, such as naturopathy, holistic kinesiology, reflexology, shiatsu, bioneuroemotion, hypnosis, NLP (neuro-linguistic programming), reiki, to give a few examples.

 Within the whole range of alternative and holistic possibilities, we find ourselves in a very special area – one that, well worked, has really high therapeutic and healing possibilities. In fact, in some way, it has always been with us in different degrees of evolution.

It is about the extrasensory perceptions that some people have, and that, in some cases, are used for communication with the spirit of our loved ones. Those who have already embarked on that beautiful journey that we will all do at some point. That journey called death, and which, even today, for a large part of the world's population, has sad and devastating connotations. 

I fully understand that it can be a controversial issue and in certain spheres of society, even controversial.  In this opinion article, I distance myself from the religious component or classical spiritualism. I also distance myself from the esoteric component.  On this occasion, I rely exclusively on a modern practice that over the years has reached new heights of professionalism and methodology:  Communication with loved ones who have already passed away, based on obtaining what we call objective and quantifiable evidence. Specific evidence that can be corroborated by loved ones.

This type of information received must contain a sufficient amount of demonstrable evidence to consider the session, connection or communication successful.  No, we are not talking about messages like "your grandfather loves you and cares for you from heaven," which, on the other hand, is probably true in some way, but it is not information that can be proven. I speak, instead, of concrete information that the consultant knows perfectly that he is in communication with his loved one. Physical and personality characteristics, relationship with the consultant, anecdotes that they lived in life, objects that belonged to the deceased person, names or nicknames, work or occupation ... You can also receive information on events from the querent or family after death. Even, sometimes, our loved ones can provide us with information about the future or tell us about where they are. 

How exactly is this information received?

Well, extrasensory communication is highly variable and diverse. At present, and based more specifically on this new paradigm of communication with the "invisible," and in an effort to briefly summarize this phenomenon, we can say that practically the largest bulk of people who have this capacity, receive a large part of information at the mental level, in a slightly altered state of consciousness, what we call the mental alpha level (8-13.99 Hz).

Humans, for the most part, have 5 biological senses. That is, smell, hearing, taste, touch and sight. People who work with this type of extrasensory communication have developed non-physical senses (not all at the same level). That is, we have the ability to perceive images, sensations, sounds, smells and flavors in a way that is not physical, but energetic-sensory.

Let's do a little exercise to understand the process of receiving this type of information – communication in a very simple way. It will be just a few small steps. Throughout the process, I advise you to keep your eyes closed for greater concentration.

The exercise is very simple. The goal is to understand the mental processes that occur in the mind of a person with extra-sensory perceptions. Everything will happen with your eyes closed once you read, point by point, the following list.

· Try to imagine an elephant. Yes, it has surely already appeared in your mind before closing your eyes.

· Now, mentally imagine that you are eating your favorite fruit or a food that you like. Feel how they put it in their mouths. Its texture, its flavor, its temperature ...

· Try to hear in your mind how your father, mother or a special person calls you by name. The vast majority, sure, will be able to hear internally with great clarity.

· Now, in your mind, you are going to smell like vanilla. It can also be an orange, with its obvious citrus scent. Or your favorite perfume.  Surely, some person will be able to receive that memory of the smell and feel that, somehow, it comes to you at this moment.

· On some occasion, surely you have been able to caress a person or an animal with love and respect. Close your eyes, and imagine how you do it right now. Feeling the softness and the characteristic sensations of such a special moment.

 It is very likely that the vast majority of people who try to "connect" with these sensations, can do so to some degree.

People who work with this type of communication receive information from the spirit in a very similar way. 

The therapeutic consequences of extra-sensory communication

What would our beautiful world look like if we removed the fear of death from the equation?

Not only for people who suffer the loss of a loved one, but also for those who are about to embark on that journey.

It is difficult to know the exact positive consequences, since, most likely, it would be different in different social and religious contexts; but I have no doubt, and obviously this is a personal opinion based on my personal experiences and how holistic therapist, is that people, somehow, would live with greater peace, because in some way, this type of communication tries to show that death is not the end. It is just the next step in our evolutionary process. For many people, it is the confirmation that the only thing that "dies" is our physical body, that "vehicle" that we have chosen to go through this experience that we call life on this precious planet called "Earth."

A heavy and painful burden is released when people somehow receive news of that loved one who has left.  Feeling that they are there and that they are well, is really wonderful. A feeling that life goes on 

In the case of sick people with a short life expectancy prognosis, receiving this information can alleviate the strange fear of an event so unique that everyone, sooner or later, WE WILL  L I V E.

Yes, I say we will live because to die is to continue living in some way. 

Talking about death naturally, with love and openness from childhood would be a first step. Perhaps the second is to open our minds to this very real possibility for more and more people in this world.

What if we add extrasensory experiences and communications to the therapeutic processes currently used in grief therapies? I feel deep down that it would be highly positive for both the people who stay and those who leave.

Healing and changing beliefs in relation to death to walk more freely

Beliefs could be defined as a mental state in which a person assumes as real a knowledge or experience that he has about any event or thing. Many times, a belief involves taking something for certain without having evidence to prove it. Beliefs can be very limiting.  Many times they are unconscious processes – aspects that somehow affect us on a daily basis and, sometimes, we do not realize it.

Let's take an example. The belief that someone is shy. Someone who defines himself as such. Well, probably that limiting belief is deeply ingrained in the subconscious and acts as a limiter in your life experience.  If we "gut" this limiting belief, we will realize that most people who define themselves as shy are not shy at all in many areas of their lives. However, mentally it affects them that their belief is global and not more specific.  In short, it is not the same to say "I am shy" as to say "on specific occasions, I feel a certain shyness." The psychological impact of the second approach is much more liberating for the person and helps them to face life from a better predisposition and openness.

If we extrapolate from this example to the beliefs related to death in a large part of the people of this world and work on them, the negative emotional charge that can be released is very, very high. And I am absolutely sure, that this fact leads us to a deeper level of peace, tranquility and well-being in our lives and in society.

That beautiful trip

Coming to this world and having the privilege of experiencing it guarantees that at some point we will die. It is so. Why not see death with different eyes? Eyes that allow us to see the beauty of lived experiences, that allow us to value and appreciate what is shared with the people we have loved and known. They are few or many, be it in a very short time or long years until they reach old age. And why not be able to see death as that beautiful journey that we will all do at some point. A trip to another fascinating place, where, by the way, in some way, and from which, we all keep in touch.

With love.

Fco. Javier Plaza Mena.

Entrepreneur and businessman in the health and wellness sector.
Specialist in personal and business coaching.
Personal trainer and nutritional coach.
Holistic therapist.
Spain